Hi, I picked the college of my dreams. But, I wasn't selective enough. I didn't know what I wanted out of a college. I don't know whether I should transfer or not. I have been researching online about good reasons to transfer and transfer admissions at my prospective college. I have talked to my dad about it but he became upset.
Reasons I want to transfer:
1) Unhappy - My emotions constantly revolve between "Ok, I can do this" and "Oh my god, I can't do this." I feel a lot of pressure and worry about grades. It's not that I was a straight A student in high school so I'm not one of those incoming freshmen who expect high grades without work and effort. But, I feel a lot of pressure to do well here and that is eclipsing my original intent: to learn for the sake of learning.
2) Not enjoying anything here - It is tough for me to find people to talk to and find clubs to join to keep my mind busy and off of these sort of things. The surrounding city of my college is dull as well - it is a party school. My personal choice is to not drink and involve myself in those situations.
3) Better environment feeling at the prospective college - it is urban and has better transportation to areas (I can walk anywhere). It also has volunteer opportunities at hospitals - which is what I want to do.
4) Closer to home - I am about 2 hours away from home but it is more convenient to plan when I'm coming home if I am closer to home.
5) Automatically accepted to transfer college - also possibility of getting scholarship that would pay for all costs plus grant me research opportunity -> if I get this, I will transfer. Research ops here are highly taxing and sought after.
6) I want smaller classes - I know that early classes will have bigger lectures but at the transfer college, class sizes are lower. There are, overall, a lot less people on campus anyways because it is a commuter campus. Perhaps it will make it harder for me to find people to talk to but I have friends attending college there so I already have a support group of sorts.
7) Feel isolated - I try to call/text home whenever I can but it seems like family does not want to keep in touch with me. I live in a single as well - no roommate - and floor mates are all antisocial.
8) Better support system for my majors - more connected campus feeling/ better clubs that I am actually interested in at the transfer campus
Basically, I am unhappy here and I think I could be happier at the transfer college. I am going to give myself the whole year here and see how it goes next semester. I just do not know how to break this to my parents because they will be really disappointed in me if I don't have the right reasons. Transferring gives me hope because I feel strong anxiety when I am worried about grades here. I do not want to focus on that. In high school, I wanted to go to college to learn. Now, this place I am at has changed me and caused me to become someone I do not want to become. Let me know if I should transfer or not - or if my reasoning is sound/logical.
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